Verdie Wollen: Love takes time. In your case an etenity, but if it takes forever let it be. All marrige is a wedding that brings you close together and that makes all the diffrence. If he doesn't propose to you, propose to him and say "were not unfinancial now" and that would mean the world to both of you! Love is a beatifil thing and I'm glad you didn't start early like most. I'm 14 and don't aticipate on getting married to a girl soon I will stand in line untill it's my turn. Always remember don't jump ahead in your line it will come to you eventualy. Good luck and keep him in your heart forever!!!
Joaquin Dronko: He's probably got some other, deeper issue going on that he hasn't told you about. It's most likely not you. Just give him some space for a while and pay closer attention to him to see if you pick up anything. if that doesn't result in answers then just talk to him!! Ask him if there's anything you can do to help.
Olen Penhallurick: Well I never kn! ew God was so prejudice lol. Seems like he wouldn't care to me as long as it's legal..But anyway well you didnt give us a price range so i will do my best I love this one its super pretty its lightweight and its elaborately simple :) its only $300 not that bad http://www.queenisagirl.com/wedding-dresses/WD2892...heres a link to morehttp://www.inweddingdress.com/wedding-dress/beach-...i want to get married on the beach as well. im only 18 and i have the boy im going to marry already. and now that i looked these up for you it makes me want to get married already! ahCongrats though!! :)and i just looked up if it was recognized by God to be married on a beach. it's not recognized by catholics thats all. so you dont have to worry about that! it sure doesnt say you can not get married on the beach in the bible. its just a catholic tradition to have to be married in a church....Show more
Guy Bonamico: Don't worry about what your friends are having or have had! Be you and dar! e to be different! You can have a lovely wedding with a lot of! class on a small budget.When my group of friends got married, their budgets ranged from a low $6,000 to $10,000 to one that cost the best part of $20,000 plus and spent $6000 on the photos alone! Their guest lists ranged from a modest 80 to 200 guests.I married years later and in a new country. My total wedding budget was NZ$4,000. Guest list 12, with my dress-making tutor and 5 classmate ladies invited to the ceremony as well. Reception for 14 counting bride and groom. I wore tiara, cathedral length veil and a (1900 vintage Victorian) homemade gown with semi cathedral length train suited to a big cathedral. My groom and my dad were in the formal Morning suits. Mum was in a formal 3 piece suit.The wedding ceremony was held outdoors. The garden setting was a formal rose garden, so beautiful it did not need decorating. http://www.ngamamakugarden.co.nz/ White standard Iceberg roses in full spring bloom, ran the length of the garden with tall trees in the background giving the! feeling of an outdoor cathedral. The lawn was beautifully groomed as a living carpet. The emerald green hedges were all neatly groomed and sprays of blue forget-me-not peeped over the hedges and around corners. Two lovely wooden park benches and two outdoor timber tables and chairs were also set in the garden for guests to relax at. The guests sat on white garden chairs for the ceremony. The summerhouse in the background has climbing roses forming an arch over the entrance and they were also in full bloom. The whole effect was elegant and really suited our Victorian wedding style.We stood under the pergola in the foreground of the photo.I used my large exquisite white Battenberg lace table cloth with a royal blue underlay on the small registry table. It swept the paving tiles and added a touch of luxurious class to the setting. A smaller tea cloth covered the chair back. Mum and I made two ivory satin kneeling cushions for the ceremony. I didnt have the funds for live mus! icians, so I used my music CDs and the stereo system at the garden and ! we had full orchestral music pieces.Half our photos were taken throughout the garden and the other half at the nearby black sandy beach. They are beautiful photos. The photographer left us from the beach.The reception was held on the slopes of a snow covered sleeping volcano at a small luxury Hotel. The chef excelled in his food presentation and made up an 11 course menu... his surprise, especially for our wedding. There was a large plate glass window behind our table that overlooked the garden and allowed us to see the mist swirling down from the mountain. The reception setting was naturally beautiful and also was not decorated. Curtains separated us from the rest of the restaraunt.We stayed the night at the reception hotel.http://www.mountainhouse.co.nz/tips for keeping costs down?Work out your budget and stick to it.Do not use credit cards... cash only! Stay out of debt!A week day wedding is easier to organise (and costs a bit less)Keep the wedding party numbers down Kee! p the guest numbers down.Shop at sales/ clearance sales only for items you know you need.Also go to Factory Outlet stores as well.Do as much as you can yourself. Involve crafty friends and family members if you can. Their time and expertise can be counted as wedding gifts.I had to DIY the dress, the cake, the stationary, the flowers, the cushions on my own, till mum arrived for the wedding. She was a great help and enjoyed helping decorate the cake and finished the cushions.Make what you can, hire what you can't make, buy what you can't hire.Borrow if you are able to... ask friends of fancy cars to be chauffer for the day as their wedding present to you. We borrowed our neighbour's vintage car and he was our chauffer for the day and our witness. He thoroughly enjoyed the day.Make use of the beautiful things you already own or are in the family closet. (ie linens, or crystal candle holders etc.)Hired items: The men's Morning suits, the cake tins for baking, the garden.Profes! sional services: Photographer, hair and make up artist, chef and dress-! making teacher. The Photographer offered a reduced coverage package for a reduced price (half the full price). Friends and family covered the reception and I took copies off all the digital cameras at the wedding and reception.The main thing is to be you and not go into debt. You dont need to be in the competition for whose wedding is greatest. Don't be the least embarrased by not "keeping up with the Joneses". Do something different!Let your love be the focus and let naturally beautiful surroundings add to your love. Add fun to the day as well by keeping things more relaxed. Dont be afraid to mix formal dress with outdoor surroundings and relaxed reception....Show more
Boyce Gilhooly: You've only listened to all the critics. I think the majority of people enjoyed the wedding although it's nice to have a bit of a ***** about the fashion mistakes. We live in a free society with free speech and therefore it is quite OK for people who didn't like this or that about the w! edding (or other Royal events for that matter) to voice their opinions. It doesn't mean we all have to agree with them or even bother to listen if we don't want to. We are as free to ignore as they are to speak. We have a nice liberal society.....and aren't we glad of it. It must be awful to have to be continually looking over your shoulder in case the 'thought police' object to your personal views....Show more
Hobert Dula: Number 4.
Leora Klingelhoets: I'm looking for a wedding dress I can wear on the beach. Instead of a traditional wedding dress, I'd like something lightweight and simple. What style of wedding dress should I be looking for?
Burt Stoecklin: I met my boyfriend in the summer of 2003, we started dating on August 1st, now almost a full 6 years later, only one major argument between us and 4 years of living together, he has yet to propose. I love him like crazy and the talk of marriage has come up several times. He doesn't seem adverse to th! e idea, even offers feed back about how he'd like his wedding to look a! nd talks about our future together... yet... I don't exactly have a ring on my finger either. He keeps saying "I wanna be financially stable" but it seems more like an excuse now than a reason... because with each higher paying job, he finds new reasons and ways to blow the money on extravagant things. Am I not the right one? Is he not ready? I'm so darn confused -_-....Show more
Gaylord Barragan: I almost got a dress like this when I thought I was going to have a beach wedding. I always thought the simple with a slight Elegance were the most pretty. (BTW- i had a friend order from this website and she said her dress came out beautiful- and if that's true- and you feel safe ordering online, then you should deff check out the dresses- they have some beautiful ones on here and not that expensive) http://www.lilywedding.com/index.php?page=shop.pro......Show more
Caterina Yeargan: Go to HolyClothing.com They have some GREAT dresses there. I would if it was in my! own wedding budget. lol!
Kelly Bistodeau: I'm getting married on a beach in Hawaii (and I'm not Catholic, so it counts, lol). I'm wearing a chiffon, knee-length dress. You don't want anything long (you'll drag sand with you and mess up the bottom of your dress), and you want a fabric that breathes -- probably not satin or taffeta or something that's going to be hot. It won't be comfortable.I bought mine on Amazon for $60. Someone linked http://www.inweddingdress.com and they have some nice dresses there. You could also look for chiffon bridesmaid dresses and see if you like any of those (they often come in white)....Show more
Georgina Natal: Your situation is similar to mine was a year ago. We had been dating for almost 6 years and living together for 4. He hadn't proposed because he didn't have the money to buy me a ring. Then, on our 6th anniversary, he proposed.How much money does your bf really make? And how extravagant are these things? And what ! does he think you expect from him? Does he think you want a $5,000 rin! g? Does he think you expect him to buy you a $100,000 wedding? If he thinks these things, you can imagine why he'd hesitate. Make clear, through subtle allusions, that your expectations are reasonable. "Oh, I hate how people blow so much money on a single piece of jewelry." Something like that. I said something to that effect, and am now wearing a beautiful ring with not just one diamond in the center but several embedded in the band, and it didn't cost him an unreasonable amount.Long story short, there might be reasons that you hadn't considered that are holding him back....Show more
Carmina Stickney: It really shouldn't matter how you get married, or where, it's just about marrying the man you love. If your friends are just trying to out do each other, they're insensitive and arrogant because they don't know the meaning of love. You just do what you want to do and marry the man/women you love, no matter what your friends think. If they are your "friends" they ! wouldn't care where you got married, as long as your happy.
Christiane Cattano: Don't fall into the trap of trying to outdo everyone else with your wedding, especially if it seems things are becoming unrealistic.Keep your plans sweet and simple, and make a big deal about that. You and your fiance should sit down with both of your families and establish a budget. Set limits for the guest list as well. Consider shopping the sales racks at the bridal shops. Sometimes you can find beautiful dresses for a small fraction of the original price. Have a short, meaningful church service, with just the basics for flowers. Talk with several places to find the best deal for your reception, and keep that simple too.Think about a casual outdoor wedding and picnic. Some friends did this at a local park, where they had rented one of the pavilions. While the ceremony took place inside (which they and friends had decorated the day before), a caterer prepared hamburgers & hot dog! s, with all the sides, for the picnic outside. The invitations said to! come dressed for a summer picnic, so most guests were in shorts and tee shirts. The entertainment was an assortment of outdoors games, for both kids and adults. As things were winding down, several of us closer friends 'kidnapped' the bride and groom, and took them on a night of barhopping. It was the most fun & unique wedding anyone could think of.So. you don't have to go 'bigger & better'. Figure out something you and your fiance would like to do, and can afford, to make your wedding day unique. and memorable for everyone. I bet people remember that before they think of all those 'fancy-pants' showcases they have been to....Show more
Becky Mosena: I'm one of those people that you might say is having a bit of a more fancy wedding. But, with that said, I would never look down on a smaller wedding. As long as there is an element of love and fun in the air, then that's what matters.The wedding I decided to have is very much my decision. I'm not trying to ou! t do anyone, so don't assume everyone is thinking the same about their wedding or your wedding.A simple wedding can be as tasteful and fun as a more expensive one. So, do what's right for you and your Fi....Show more
Donny Bankson: Hi and congratulations!Why do you feel that you need to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak? You say...."it seems like every wedding I go to, they are trying to out-do the last one." This is problem #1. Why are your friends/family trying to out-do the last one? Wow.....wrong reason to have a wedding!Problem #2 - if you are not in the same financial state as the others. OR....even if you were.....why be a "cookie cutter" and have the same type of wedding?Someone asked yesterday....do you like weddings? My answer: yes, I certainly do....but everyone I go to is the SAME so it makes it "cookie cutter."So, my advice to you is....don't try to "keep up" with the others with your limited funds because it will not look right. Instead,! embrace something completely different! Do something different than a! ll the others. Believe me, your guests will appreciate something new and refreshing. So....why not go outside the box....~ plan a morning wedding with a brunch or lunch reception. ~ have an outdoor wedding in a park with a picnic lunch or a BBQ.~ have an elegant evening wedding (8 p.m. or so) followed by a dessert and champagne reception.~ have your wedding at an unusual venue such as a zoo, a planetarium, a museum, a coffee house....the venues are endless!There are sooooo many choices now when it comes to weddings. It makes me wish I was getting married again! Do what you and your fiance can afford. Search on wedding sites, using Google, and this forum and you will be surprised at how beautiful your wedding can be on a very limited budget. Many on this forum are doing just that! But you need to get out of the mindset of "keeping up with the Joneses".Good luck to you and congratulations!...Show more
Branden Round: small/tasteful/but most important/actually the! only thing important something you enjoy and will remember
Russel Gajate: I think, based on what you said, that he intends on marrying you one day, but simply is in no rush because you're already sharing a life and a home together and because making that final commitment is scary to many men. Maybe you aren't the right one, or maybe if you express how important getting married is to you he'll realize that you won't wait forever and make a move.
Rashad Marecki: "Any tips on cheap ways to make my wedding seem more expensive than it actually cost?"This is the wrong question to ask. You don't have the same amount of money to blow on your wedding, and there's no way to fake it. It'll just end up looking like you're trying to fake it!I kind of know how you feel. My cousin got married 6 weeks before I did... big church wedding, 16 member bridal party, country club reception, 200+ guests, black tie, live band, incredible 5' tall flower arrangements, open bar. Was I fee! ling a little green with envy? You betcha.But then I reminded myself th! at I didn't WANT a wedding like hers. Our wedding was 55 people with 7 person wedding party, in a small Spanish restaurant with a tapas buffet, sangria and cava, flamenco dancer and Spanish guitarist, fake flower arrangements I made myself. I made the invites myself, too. It cost about $10K counting attire and travel (about $18K if you include honeymoon, engagement ring, boys and girls' nights out, and EVERY single detail). My wedding and my cousin's wedding were way, way, different. But people said the food was incredible, and that our wedding was different from any they'd ever attended before. And that's what I wanted! I mean, how many weddings have a flamenco dancer? There's no way in heck I could have competed with my cousin in terms of scale of wedding. But does that make my marriage any less wonderful? HECK NO! The point is that you spend your life with the person you love. The wedding day, after all, is just one day....Show more
Rachell Meese: God doesn't recog! nise beach weddings, so it doesn't really matter what you wear because it doesn't count anyway.
Emile Midgley: When you try and dress up cheap...it still looks cheap. Just go for classic....choose colors, fabrics and designs that are classic. Classic is timeless and will always be better than cheap extravagance .
Catheryn Small: Hmmmm, sounds to me like he's dragging his feet sweetie, i'm sorry to say. I did put off my wedding to my hubby due to my bad financial situation, but I had a plan that it would take me x-number of years to settle it, etc. THEN we'd get married. That's what we did. We've been together 16 years now. If he's serious about needing to fix a financial situation, he ought not be over-spending.Money is the biggest issue in a marriage. You two need to sit down and put ALL your money cards on the table. If he's hiding anything money-related, he's not ready for marriage sweetie.Good luck. And better to know now that after the kids come.
! Josefine Weekey: I'm in the same boat. The last few weddings I have bee! n to have been more upscale than the last. I went to a wedding yesterday that offered more food at their cocktail hour than I am having at my entire wedding!My solution? I'm having a cool destination wedding! I'm getting married in South Beach, and doing a cool lounge vibe. Because of the theme, big and fancy doesn't fit, so I have an excuse to do cool mood lighting, use candles as my centerpieces instead of flowers, etc.I suggest a small destination wedding - you can do them pretty cheap in the caribbean and mexico!...Show more
Johnny Sirko: Wow, I didn't know that about catholics not acknowledging beach weddings, but I guess catholic weddings are suppose to have mass and such, right? My friend is a catholic, and she got married on the beach. You might go for more form fitting dresses since they aren't as big and bulky. Also there are some that are silky and have more of a nightgown flow-y style to them, that could be nice. Also you could get a simple white dress...d! oesn't have to specifically be a "wedding dress" and it really doesn't even have to be white if you don't want! if you're worried about it getting too dirty or dragging, try a tea length dress that stops just below your knees.There are still tons of options. Also, think about if you want to be photographs in the water what kind of dress will work best with that. My friend actually have this gorgeous full length mermaid type dress for her ceremony, and then bought a thinner, simple, but beautiful full length dress to wear for photos where her and her husband actually got in the water for photos....Show more
Rosalva Steinmann: If they really care that they have more money than you, then they might not really be real friends. Just pick a theme you like and make as much of it as you can well. Homemade things are usually cheaper, so meh.
Providencia Serpe: It has nothing to do with whether or not you are the right one, it's just that he's gotten comfortable with shac! king up with you, and doesn't want/need anything else.So if YOU are cha! nging now what you want, discuss it with him really seriously, if he's not willing to commit - I'd move on. If you want marriage and he doesn't (money is just an excuse), then you two aren't a match.Sorry, but I wouldn't have 'waited' as long as you...
Donny Bankson: I feel light and elegant dress would be a good choice. You can check online for the kind of dress that suits you best.
Charissa Riley: What are some nice venues that are outside?
Luke Creitz: You've been living together for 4 years. He has no incentive to marry you. He's getting what he wants.Think about what's involved in getting married. Think about the EXTRA stuff that you're asking of him:1.)He makes the effort to decide if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.2.)He then spends time in researching for an engagement ring.3.)Then he spends the $$$ to get the ring. Think about it. Most guys think of a ring as, "I can buy a car with that money!" But if he's willing to let the $$$ le! ave his wallet because he wants you to be happy flashing your ring to your girlfriends, he must be serious.4.)Then you plan for the wedding:a.) Order cake (color, size, taste testing)b.) Invitation cards (what should we write?)c.) Guest lists (who to invite, who not to invite)d.) Research DJ's or bandse.) Research best church, chapel, or hall (food testing)f.) Which minister to useg.) Seating charts for the reception.h.) Writing vows to recite them in front of friends and family because he wants to show everybody he is SERIOUS.i.) Go through premarital counseling to be sure that you both have the skill sets for the long haul.*BUT* you live with him: HAH! He doesn't have to do items 1 thru 4a-i in the name of, "I wanna be financially stable."You have shared with him what is important to you and he has not made any forward progress. I think you've answered your own question.Please, DO NOT try to change him, or egg him on, or drop hints. He has spoken to you loudly and clearly! with NON ACTION.You need to ask yourself, "Do I want to sign up for th! is?"Don't be fooled into thinking that you can have kids easily later in life as you can when you're younger.If you really love this guy, then you know that it will take time to get over him. So let's say it takes 9 months to a year, then you're a year older. Then you have to take some time to build the new relationship. You're another year older.What if he isn't the right one?!See where I'm going with this? DON'T WASTE ANY MORE TIME!!!I think it's time to make yourself available to a man who is absolutely hot for you and can't wait to spend the rest of his life making you happy. And believe me, they're out there waiting for you to drop your bf.If the next man can't make up his mind, drop kick him has fast as you can.Good luck to you.***
Mauro Cowee: What is to motivate him to get married? You already live together, so what difference will it really make, besides an expensive party and an overpriced ring? These are probably only a few of the many things he is thinki! ng. Find a way to show him how great and exciting and *different* it would be for the two of you if you were married.
Wilmer Skidmore: The Lowe's Hotel on Lake Las VegasTPC Las Vegas (Golf Course with clubhouse)The Bellagio has an outdoor balcony that overlooks the fountains where they can perform weddings...Show more
Andre Winegar: Try second hand shops, online discount, david's bridal for your dress. Find a do it yourself venue where you provide tables, linens, you can rent them cheaper than finding a venue where they are provided, or choose a venue such as the Elk's Club, with some decorating you can make it look beautiful. If you want lots of flowers then go with an inexpensive flower. If you want centerpieces with crystals talk to your florist about designing something where you provide the crystals. You can go to craft or bead shops and get them at a good price....Show more
Pattie Vold: http://www.the-grove.com/garden_wedding_and_recept...
Tillie Wynott: 6 years?I believe you really crazy for this guy or you are being too patient.Try to have a really serious discussion with him,if he still blame on his financial situation,like you say it's not a problem at all..I think you better have serious thought about your own happiness.Do you really want to be with him or do you want a more committed relation?As for a woman,your biological clock is ticking..faster and faster every passing years..So you should talk it over or walk out..Maybe I sound cruel but that is the thing I will do if I were you.
Jed Mutone: If you're getting free milk, why would you buy the cow?He's not ready and maybe he'll NEVER be ready. Are you really prepared to wait and see? I don't know how old you are but it sounds like the pressure is building. If you want to have kids, the clock is ticking. You and he need to! have a serious conversation about this. This financial stability stuff is just an excuse.
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